There seems to be no beginning nor end as your brain goes in different directions, barely ever coming to a conclusion. Overthinking can suck the fun out of things, at times, but a fun fact is that all over thinkers tend to share a particular set of traits.
Overthinking is a unique trait that one can have, but it dawdles on the fine line between sanity and insanity. You might be used to over-analyzing or over-calculating every situation for absolutely no reason at all. This can lead to analysis paralysis, which restricts the action to be taken; thus, paralyzing the outcome.
There are contrasting opinions about the usefulness of over-thinking. While some believe that every important decision requires a good amount of thought to be put in, the other half believe that it might be ruining our lives.
Are you an overthinker? Well, if you find yourself over-analyzing every situation or statements made by someone, you probably are sailing in the overthinking boat. Here is a list of classic traits of an over-thinker that you might relate to.
1. Your brain is always on overdrive
Overthinking most definitely leads to indecisiveness; you might think you are simply being proactive and planning ahead. This is valid when you should not be rushing into things or making impulsive decisions. For example, when you are trying to avoid a creepy ex or planning a solid career change. Analyzing all the possible outcomes and every course of action for every situation is evidence that your mind is on overdrive, always.
2. There is a constant thought war in your mind
Once a thought pops up in your head, consequently, there are branches of a million other thoughts that lead to a state of confusion. Your mind is a roller-coaster of feelings and thoughts more often than not.
Your mind is filled with a multitude of emotions and you are happy, sad, furious, and satisfied at the same time. There would also be times when you would have wondered why you cannot feel one emotion at once.
3. You think of all sorts of possibilities
According to you, there is no plain “yes” or “no” response. You presume that every answer has a hidden layer or message that directs your brain into the darkest tangents. In any given situation, you can think of the worst possible options, which may or may not be probable.
For instance, if your partner does not come back in the night, you wonder if he/she is in trouble or your partner find someone else and forget all about you. This endless guessing game can make a mess out of you.
4. Typing out a message can be a daunting task
Irrespective of the platform you use, you struggle before posting a status or sending a message. The repercussions of this can be felt in a relationship. In the initial stages, you might find it hard to send a single line because your mind is deciphering how your message might be interpreted. You might type something, but erase it the next instant and then send a different message altogether.
5. You want to know why you were blocked on social media
All of us have stalked an ex or a friend on social media. There might be times when your friend deactivates their account temporarily or decide to stay offline for a while. But the fact that you don’t find them on your list might make your mind race as to why they singled you out and blocked you!
Or, let’s say they do decide to cut short their friend list and have only a few friends. If you are an overthinker, you start thinking of conversations you had with them and other exchanges that might have caused them to do this.
6. You cling to things
Well, you do not let things slide easily. That’s quite obvious considering your tendency to overthink and inability to come to quick conclusions. Initially, you come up with a solution and then contemplate other alternatives to better the conclusion; it’s hard for you to simply let something just be. This can be a good working method to develop contingency plans for every situation, but if applied to simple situations, it can get irritating to others and draining for you.
7. You are loyal to the ones who make you feel special
There would be people who make you feel alive and special. You might feel special because someone helped you make a decision or said a few assuring words. Once you come to know the person’s intentions, without any unnecessary judgment or introspection, you pledge your loyalty to that person.
8. You tend to complicate things
This is might be quite clear to you. Your tendency to overthink can complicate simple situations because you cannot believe life is really that simple. You always wonder if something is amiss and you try to repair the situation. Hence, you are the one creating the complication.
9. You hate small talk
Your tendency to think a lot is behind your love for long and deep conversations and dislike for small talk. You are inclined towards deep conversations that discuss the delicious details of life and situations and you are not interested in talking about the weather or what you had for lunch.
You want to know why people do what they want to do and their purpose in life. Deep conversations satisfy this curiosity since it promotes a chain of thoughts in your mind feeding the overthinking brain.
Don’t let people’s opinion bother you; being this way has its advantages and disadvantages. However, be aware that you do not let this trait complicate simple situations. This could bring unnecessary arguments and pain, especially in relationships. Learn to your brain your mind and enjoy the little moments of life.